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August 22nd, 2011


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08:33 am
There is truly something poisonous in the one-upmanship of our society.

Some examples:

lishd had an amazing portrait of a hawk carved into her side over the course of five hours.
A friend of mine responded by saying that some of her friends get brands done.

I mentioned on facebook that I was in Titusville (the nearest town to Kennedy Space Center) for the final space shuttle launch.
A friend of mine responded with "Wow -- why are you hanging out in Hicktown?"
Another friend responded with "Why did you go out for it? There's only a 30% chance of it launching."

(I was able to have the last laugh in this case -- the probability was downgraded farther and the launch proceeded -- but if you've been reading my journal, you knew that.)

Whenever my video game console collection is discussed, inevitably someone puts forth the question: "Oh yeah? Do you have console X?" where X is a meaningless console like a Dendy or a Game & Watch watch. This usually leads to the rather thrilling continuing thread of conversation of "Oh."

On the occasions where I do happen to have X, they continue their inquisition until one is named that I don't have without any apparent recognition that their attempt at a trump is invalid. I once endured someone asking this question eight times before they gave up and they did not give me opportunity to elucidate at any point. Their response was "Huh."

The art of conversation is not a matter of flapping your lips at one another for an extended period of time. It is about listening, understanding, and responding thoughtfully. In our age of instant gratification, it is most unfortunate that people see a period of time for reflection in the midst of an argument or conversation as an imperfection.

Groucho Marx was quoted as saying "Years ago, I tried to top everybody, but I don't anymore. I realized it was killing conversation. When you're always trying for a topper you aren't really listening. It ruins communication."

(It seems to me that at some point, I have likely been a hypocrite with respect to this statement, nevertheless I hold that it does not diminish the truth of my sentiment.)

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From:majesticzaichik
Date:August 23rd, 2011 08:24 am (UTC)
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It isn't, actually. Ever since they introduced that capability, that's always been the rule. They claim it's for reasons with their database, but I've wondered if that's not just an excuse to do what they consider the right thing.

I never noticed this until now. Oh well, maybe it is the right thing.

Don't misread me and don't flatter yourself.

I wasn't. I didn't think you cared about what I find admirable. YOU I certainly don't find admirable in many ways. I also think it's funny that you said for me not to flatter myself when you are also one of the biggest egoists I have ever met, but whatever.

I think that there is no such thing as certainty in basically everything. It's certain that 3+3=6, but with the vast majority of things, there is no such thing. I find logic to be a highly desirable trait. What I said was that I don't find your logic logical in most of your inflammatory posts.

Yeah I think it's pretty pointless for me to continue this. You just said you don't really care of peoples' opinions of you which is very clear, which is also why it's kind of pointless to argue with you. You obviously like saying really inflammatory things to gain peoples' reactions. I used to think this was fun about... 10 years ago. And I guess it kind of is still fun. Look how many replies you got to this short post and mine was the only bitchy one. Kind of shocking, but ok.

Also, you probably don't know that I also don't care about peoples opinions of me overall. I have more self-confidence than most girls and I think pretty damn highly of myself too. I don't care if people think I'm a giant bitch or whatever negative thing they think of me. They should all think I'm awesome because I think I'm awesome but if they don't, then that's ok, it's their problem. The only difference between you and me in that respect, I suppose, is that I don't like showing people what an arrogant asshole I am : ).

Edited at 2011-08-23 08:25 am (UTC)
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From:testing4l
Date:August 23rd, 2011 08:59 am (UTC)
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They should all think I'm awesome because I think I'm awesome but if they don't, then that's ok, it's their problem.

I think this is the difference between you and me.

You think you're awesome.

I know I am.
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From:lishd
Date:August 23rd, 2011 01:50 pm (UTC)
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The only difference between you and me in that respect, I suppose, is that I don't like showing people what an arrogant asshole I am : ).

you're joking, right? the emoticon was to represent "eheh just kidding", yeah?

this is not to defend phil in the slightest, as he doesn't need anyone to defend him, but... seriously?

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