January 12th, 2008
Ok. Quite a bit late, but here it is: My resolutions for the new year.
(hur hur hur.)
(Hey, would you shut up in the peanut gallery? Some of us are trying to pay attention here.)
1. Eliminate all of the wardrobe boxes in the living room -- organize my living space.
2. Instead of spending my newfound capital, start saving up for a house. It's time I had a place that I can hack up without having to answer to anyone but myself.
3. Stop cruising for an early out by heart attack. I need to start watching cholesterol levels and working out. The latter will be greatly facilitated in February when I'll have a gym at my workplace and no girl to rush home for.
4. Subplot of 3: I'm not getting any younger. If I'm going to ever get better off than I was while playing hockey and practicing Tae Kwon Do, then I've got to get on that sooner rather than later.
5. Submit at least two papers for professional review. I'm not picky about the field (I've submitted papers in several); I'm just tired of my most recent being 5+ years ago.
6. Start taking classes to finish off the degree.
7. The big one: Seriously rethink how I deal with humans. #10 has claimed that I treat people without emotion and cited that in her "good reason" to dump me. squeekiemouse has been upset at my treatment of emotions as overly rational. In general, I don't think being rational is a bad thing, but I'd like to consider presenting myself to people differently.
1 and 2 are a sort of infrastructural set of goals. 3 and 4 are fitness goals. 5 and 6 are towards my life goal. 7's a nebulous one.
|Date:||January 12th, 2008 06:50 pm (UTC)|| |
without emotion... that's pretty harsh. I'll have to hang out with you more, but I don't perceive that. You are a little odd (ok a lot odd).. but everyone has different ways of handling people.
7 is huge. It's going to change you and your entire perspective on life.
|Date:||January 13th, 2008 01:53 am (UTC)|| |
I can't believe I've never heard that joke before.
|Date:||January 13th, 2008 01:57 am (UTC)|| |
Also, I'm not sure if this is helful, but the phrasing of 7 is a bit oxymoronic. You speak of your treatment of emotions as overly rational, while referring to the person you recently broke up with as #10. Which could be construed by some as pretty cynical. Not me, mind you, I think it's more convenient than anything, I'm just sayin'.
I have to agree with darnn here. You're saying that you want to treat people differently, yet the very fact that you refer to her as #10, while still insisting that you're remaining friends, is dehumanizing her, and putting a wall up between you two that won't come down easily. If you really are considering changing the way you deal with people, that would be a good start.
You know better than this. All of my ex-girlfriends are numbered. It is no more dehumanizing than calling her my ex. This isn't special treatment that I'm trotting out for her.
I number them for when I talk to other people. The names Ardene, Emily, and so on don't mean anything to most people. A number holds the same amount of meaning to someone else and encodes a bit of information which is useful to some people -- where in the revolving door of my love life they appeared.
For that reason -- and that reason alone -- I number my ex-girlfriends. I don't call them numbers to their face; I call them by name because that name means something to me.
My reply to danaewinters
will make sense of that frequently misunderstood habit of mine, I think.